CoDependent Relationships: Are You in One?
For a long time, codependency was just a word to me. And then I realized that I may be in codependent relationships all the time. I think that a lot of people, especially women, seem to get involved in codependent relationships and once we're in them, we don't know how to get out.
In all the reading I've done I've found that many codependents become that way because they've had to - often by living with an alcoholic or a drug addict, but that's not always the case. Anyone can get involved in a codependent relationship.
I'd also always thought that codependent people were people who relied on someone else to make all their decision for them and that certainly wasn't me. However, I'm finding that's a bit of a myth as well. People who are in codependent relationships typically find most of their happiness or sadness from that relationship and tend to base their moods on how the other person is feeling or behaving. There are lots of traits of codependents that I never realized had anything to do with what I thought codependency was.
If your relationships seem to always be failing and you can't figure out why, take the time to learn more about codependent relationships - it could very well be part of your problem.The good news is that even if you find you have some, or a lot, of these traits, you don't have to stay that way. There are plenty of avenues of support available to you and actionable steps you can take to help youself become healthier and happier!